Like sex, attraction isn’t really a component of gender. However, we often conflate sexual orientation with gender, or categorize the attraction we experience in gendered ways.
Attraction is often divided into romantic and sexual attraction. Either of these can be based on any part of the genderbread person or none of them at all. Here are just a few of the many attraction identities:
- Demisexual people are only sexually/romantically attracted to those people with whom they have an emotional bond
- Aromantic people experience no romantic attraction to others at all however they may still experience sexual attraction
- Bisexual people are romantically/sexually attracted to more than one gender
It is important to remember that there is no agreed standard of what these labels mean and they mean different things to different people. The important thing is to recognise that there is a huge variety of attractive identities, and it is important not to assume someone’s identity (for example assume that someone who identifies as a man has a wife).